Losing More Than a Fight

By Tony Blauer

In Coaching, CrossFit, CrossFit Defense, HD Videos

November 05, 2013

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As a child, Tony Blauer was afraid of getting beat up. He was also inordinately attracted to fight scenes in movies.

So at the age of 12, he signed up for Taekwondo. He trained seven days a week, and he was “obsessive,” says Blauer, now 53. From the ages of 20 to 25, he did 30 to 40 private lessons a week. Eventually he opened his own school. But it wasn’t until one of his students lost a fight that Blauer realized he was incorrectly teaching self-defense. He needed to understand the psychology of fear.

Through a conversation with CrossFit Founder and CEO Greg Glassman, Blauer began to further see why victims of violence so often don’t fight back: they’re afraid to lose.

“(Glassman) went on to say, ‘If the fight’s gonna happen anyways and you choose not to fight back, what you risk is losing everything. But if the fight’s gonna happen anyways, and you get into the fight and you happen to lose the fight, all you lost was the fight’—’cause you still have your emotional, psychological system, ya know, intact,” explains Blauer, who owns Blauer Tactical Systems and leads the CrossFit Defense Specialty Course.

“And that is true research-wise, where victims of violence who fought back don’t have the same (post-traumatic stress disorder) as people who just cooperated—that’s huge, powerful.”

Video by Jon Gilbert and Jay Vera.

11min 12sec

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Additional reading: Face the Fear: Lessons From Newtown by Hilary Achauer, published Jan. 25, 2013.

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5 Comments on “Losing More Than a Fight”


wrote …

Tony, that was inspirational, the part of overcoming fear and empowering your day has had quite an impact on me. I hope to take your course soon if possible. I think your teaching changes perspective and how we frame situations, especially the unexpected (sounds familiar ..the known and unknowable).
I am 67 yrs. old and age be damned, I need to be able to face the fear.


wrote …

Tony, great video. I appreciated hearing more about your background and your system. I'd love to take your course and I forwarded the link to a couple friends. I have had multiple conversations with other fathers with young children and wanted your opinion on how to approach teaching our kids to deal with physical confrontation while they grow up? I know it may be a large question. But any input would be greatly appreciated. Thanks


wrote …

What a great article. In this day and age we teach ourselves and our children to be victims. It is great to see people who will encourage and train others to stand up for themselves.


wrote …

I agree with what has already been said. I can relate to a lot of what you shared, being an experienced martial artist myself. I love the upfront honesty you bring to the table with your videos and articles. Thanks.


wrote …

thank you everyone! Looking forward to meeting you all at a course one day.

Stay safe


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